You hear what you need to hear

Photo courtesy of Ruud Onos (Creative Commons)

Photo courtesy of Ruud Onos (Creative Commons)

I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason, and that you hear what you need to hear – when you need to hear it.

So the fact that I’ve heard from so many different sources lately about obstacles has made me sit up and pay attention. From books to blogs to webinars, I’m realizing that I need to take notice and quit making excuses.

In his book The Obstacle is the Way, Ryan Holiday says, “We don’t control the barriers or the people who put them there. But we control ourselves – and that is sufficient.”

For too long, I have shied away from going after dreams because it seemed dangerous or risky or difficult. But that just leaves me always feeling unsatisfied, like something is missing. And I let the difficulties become excuses, instead of pushing through them.

That means no more settling for situations because “that’s how it’s always been.”

No putting up with something out of fear, or avoiding it because I might fail.

I will own my decisions and work with my mission in mind, so that means approaching everything as if it’s an obstacle course. I’m going to crawl under, jump over or push through whatever gets thrown my way instead of backing off.

According to Holiday, “Persistence is an action. Perseverance is a matter of will. One is energy. The other endurance.”

It can be overwhelming and terrifying to follow your vision. It seems that lately, every week has been a challenge, and the choice comes down to continuing to find solutions, or give up and take the easy route.

But I keep coming back to Holiday’s advice, “We forget: in life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given. And the only way you’ll do something spectacular is by using it all to your advantage.”

What obstacles do you need to use to your advantage?