Power in a personal thank you

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I should be more thankful. I guess I should clarify – I should be more intentional with my appreciation of people.

I might toss out a “thanks” or “appreciate that” to folks as for helping with a project, but do I really take the time to express my sincere gratitude for those who have meaningful roles in my life? Not so much.

I have written before about appreciation (click here), and thanks to the suggestion of my friend Matt McWilliams, I even practice “thank you Thursday” occasionally – where I give out handwritten thank you notes to people I work with. An out-of-the-blue card to let them know I appreciate the work they are doing has tremendous impact on both of us. On me, because I think about how much they help me, and on them, because it lets them know that I notice how much they do.

But I’m not consistent, and I sometimes find myself dashing off some of the notes as if they were just one more thing on my to-do list. I don’t take the time I should to really express my feelings about what that person means in my life.

So that needs to change.

A personal, written thank you is a powerful tool, especially when you are expressing the ways a person adds value to your life. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • How is your life richer because they are part of it?
  • What aspect of your life would be missing if they weren’t part of it? (Music, laughs, shared experiences)
  • What feelings or emotions do you feel when you think about them (Love, security, happiness, blessings)
  • What goals or dreams are possible or have you accomplished because of them?

See what I mean? Don’t take the people who mean the most to you for granted. Let them know the impact they have on you and that you are grateful for the connections you share.

Who do you need to thank today?

2 thoughts on “Power in a personal thank you

    • Thanks Matt – I like the idea of gratitude spreading. “Appreciate” is going to be one of my three words for 2013, so I will focus on this a lot. I’m hoping this will be like any habit – hard to remember at first and then second nature after some time. Thanks for commenting!

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