The one or the many?

one starEver notice that no matter how many good things happen, it is often the one bad thing that you remember?

When I worked in retail, there would be great customers all day long, but that one that gave me a hard time or got upset because their order wasn’t ready or they had to wait too long – that was what I would go home thinking about.

Authors remember that one bad review. Athletes focus on the missed shot.

It is important to keep things in perspective.

I participate in a group called I Run 4, in which we pair runners with those who do not have the gift of mobility, and we run for them, in their honor. The group has grown to nearly 6300 members and over 1700 matches in just 9 months, so as you can imagine, we have a few complainers. The challenge is to focus on the good stories that are coming out of this group.

Stories of inspiration because you are running for someone else, support between parents, advice between runners, relationships building, marriages strengthened.

Those are the things to remember, not the whining or complaints.

When you have that bad experience, it’s important to take a deep breath and redirect your thinking so that you don’t get caught in that web of negativity.

Because it’s always better to focus on the many good things than that one bad one.

How do you escape that cycle of negativity?

One thought on “The one or the many?

  1. Great reminder! I have a sign that hangs in my kitchen that says “Thou Shalt Not Whine” And even though I have been guilty in my life of whining on some occasions, I know it’s not the least bit productive. Our goal should be lift others up…not bring them down.

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