I don’t say thank you enough. Do you?
And when we do say thank you, do we mean it and do we spell out what we are being thankful for?
I often find myself mumbling “thank you” and it’s about as meaningful as the “how are you – fine” interaction most of us have when we meet. Let’s be honest – most of the time we have that exchange, it’s just a formality – we aren’t really asking how that person is, and we certainly don’t expect any kind of accounting of how they are doing – just like we don’t give them any idea how we are that day either.
I think the same thing happens when we say “thank you” much of the time. We mumble it as an automatic response, and it loses any real meaning. Plus half the time we walk away wondering what we were even being thanked for!
What if we stopped and actually spelled out to the other person what we are saying thank you about? Instead of just a tossed off “thanks” – imagine yourself saying,
“Thank you for (insert specific action here). That has really helped me (insert specific benefit here).”
When I spell out my gratefulness like this, it not only lets the other person know that I am noticing their actions, but it also makes me more aware of how much I truly appreciate what they have done.
A couple of examples might be:
“Thank you for helping me with the verbiage on that proposal. Your feedback made it more powerful and effective.”
“Thank you for going to lunch with me. It was really nice to catch up and enjoy your company. I loved hearing about your new job.”
“Thank you for your consistently great attitude. I don’t tell you enough how much it brightens the office/house/day when you smile.”
It only takes a minute, but what a difference a genuine thank you can make! I think we especially need to express our gratitude to those who are closest to us at home or work because they are the ones we often take for granted.
Who are you thankful for, and have you told them lately?