Maybe is a dream killer. Whenever I qualify a statement with the word “maybe” then I’m dooming myself to inaction.
For years, I told myself, “maybe I could be a writer.” So for years, I wasn’t a writer.
When I finally said, “I am a writer!” – my dream became a reality. Same with running – when I quit thinking, “I’d like to try to run,” and just started running, I realized I was a runner!
What does that even mean? “I’m going to try…”
By thinking that, I’ve already given myself an out – I am giving myself permission to fail – to not do whatever it is I really need or want to do.
Just like when I tell someone that I’ll “try” to meet them for lunch or a particular activity, or that I “should” to do this or that – just by using that terminology, I’m admitting that it likely will not happen.
Don’t you do the same thing? How many times do you really do whatever it is you’ve told yourself or others you will “try” to do?
To me, using those words are disingenuous. I’m hedging my bets. I’m telling someone (or myself) one thing, all the while knowing that I really mean something else.
So I plan to banish those words from my vocabulary! I will banish “try,” “should,” “maybe” and “ought to” and replace them with words that are positive and decisive – do, direct, go, stop, yes, no.
No more trying! No more maybe! Instead, I will be more honest with myself and those with whom I interact. I will write, I will run. I will make up my mind and do. Or I will admit that it is not the right time and I won’t do.
I feel free just climbing out from under the ambiguity that “try” imposes. Strength and decisiveness make me sit up taller and feel more powerful. No more wishy-washy waffling, but action only here.
What maybes can you banish?