My heart is just not in it

Photo courtesy of Sebastien Wiertz (Creative Commons)

Photo courtesy of Sebastien Wiertz (Creative Commons)

How many times do you say that your heart isn’t in something that you feel compelled to do?

I sometimes say that about exercise (especially on a cold morning when I get ready to run) or after I have told someone I will do something that I later regret (wouldn’t it be nice to just go on home and relax?). It might even be about work (oh for a day off!).

Let me ask you an important question – when that thought comes into your mind – how do you react?

I am learning about being an Owner, and about directing my life, and I have to say that now more than ever, when I think that my heart is not in something, I go ahead and do it anyway.

Why? Because I’ve made a commitment and it’s important to uphold my promises to others as well as myself. If I have said yes to something, then I need to follow through with it.

But then I rethink why I said yes in the first place.

Usually it is fear or laziness that is the voice behind that feeling of hesitancy. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of the unknown if it is something I’ve never done before. Or pure laziness – not wanting to exert myself or be uncomfortable.

Yes, I could wimp out and not go for that run, or cut it short and only run 3 miles instead of 5. But what does that say about me? How will I reach my goals if I am not willing to push through that lethargy?

But if I am regretting saying yes to a project or meeting, is it because I am just tired or because I am not passionate about that activity or topic?  I need to consider more deeply before I say yes again next time. I need to examine my motives for saying yes, and make sure that I’m directing my activities instead of being directed by others and their agendas.

In some cases, I must say no up front. I need to be more thoughtful about how I spend my time and direct my calendar more intentionally.

I’ve noticed that when I do gather up the courage to say no – there’s a moment of near panic – and then peace. That’s right – peace at knowing I made a good decision.

What do you need to say no to?