Changes can be subtle, like the hints of spring that have already started appearing, birds singing more, shoots of green starting to pop out of the ground, temperatures warming ever so slightly each day.
Change can also be the “pull the rug out from under you” kind of situation, where your whole world turns upside down in a moment. Like a butterfly must feel as he emerges from his cocoon.
Most people, myself included, have a lot of trouble with the second kind of change, but I have discovered something about myself lately that is helping me handle it a little better.
I have realized that I need to do three things:
When I let my emotions rule right away, I tend to be negative and upset. I think things like “why is this happening to me?” and “everything will be all messed up now.”
I am learning to take a deep breath and stop. And be quiet at first.
When I refrain from reacting (or overreacting) initially, and contemplate the change and how it will really affect me, I tend to realize that there are good things possible, even if they take some work to uncover.
Besides, change is going to happen whether we like it or not, and there is no use wasting energy being unhappy and upset all the time. We just may need a little time to figure out how to embrace that change and turn it to a positive.
We have had some reorganizations at work which have directly affected my job description, and while I had a very negative feeling about it at first, I’ve realized after some time that the changes make sense, and make my job better.
I’m having to remind myself of the mantra, “change is good, change is good.”
How have you reacted too quickly to changes when you should have waited and embraced them?