Does complaining fix the problem?

Photo courtesy of zizzybaloobah (Creative Commons)

Photo courtesy of zizzybaloobah (Creative Commons)

Have you noticed how many people live in a “complaint” mindset? They whine about everything from the weather, to their weight, to all the things they have to do. Instead of being thankful for what they have, they grumble about what they are lacking. And in their minds, nothing ever goes right, and everyone is out to make their lives more miserable.

That is not a fun place to be.

And honestly, they have put themselves in that place.

Life isn’t rainbows and happiness all the time for any of us, but even in difficult circumstances, a lot depends on your perspective. Instead of focusing on the negative things in life, I would rather look for positives.

When I look back at the darkest points in my life, I am thankful for them because they have made me the person I am today. I am smarter, stronger and braver for having been through those things, and can use that knowledge and experience to face the things I face now.

And I sure didn’t get through them by complaining and settling for those situations. I worked hard to stay focused on positive aspects so I could make good come out of the experiences.

When I am faced with things not going the way I hoped, I adjust my expectations and look for solutions. Sometimes answers are in unexpected places, so I’m open to new things.

Have you found yourself in a place where no one is stepping up to help? Then you need to figure out how to do things for yourself or – gasp – ask for help. Many times, people are embroiled in their own drama and don’t notice that you need help until you ask. Then they are more than willing.

And a pity party is never a good thing to have – all it does is reinforce the negative mindset that closes you off from looking for a way out.

One of my favorite expressions is “it’s all good.” I tell myself that when things go wrong, my day starts to head downhill, or I feel so overwhelmed that I don’t even know what all I have to do, let alone where to start. It’s a reminder that I can get through whatever it is, and that the challenges are making me stronger.

What complaints do you need to ditch so you can see the positive side of things?

2 thoughts on “Does complaining fix the problem?

  1. I haven’t heard the expression “pity party’ in a while. It’s a very good way to describe the pitfalls. I’ve had them. You’ve had them. Everybody has. It’s the snapping out of it, through and with people like you, that matters.
    Great post.

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