Accepting what comes

Photo courtesy of MilitaryHealth (Creative Commons)

Photo courtesy of MilitaryHealth (Creative Commons)

It’s hard when things don’t go your way, isn’t it? You have the day planned out, and weather, illness, other people, computer problems, or something else comes along and screws up your perfect plan. Rats. Ugh. #%@!

How do you react when that happens?

Do you stomp around and curse the world? Do you whine and share with everyone around you how the world is out to get you? Or do you just accept it and get on with other things?

I’m a big believer that things happen for a reason, and I have learned (sometimes the hard way), that I’m better off just rolling with the situation when things don’t happen according to my plan. I must not have had the right plan.

It’s not always easy, and I’m not always happy about it, but it doesn’t do any good to get upset, does it? Stomping around, getting crabby, or whining just make me feel worse, and do nothing to solve anything. In fact, all that kind of reaction really does is make me and the people around me more miserable.

Instead, I’m learning to find the good in whatever the new situation is and stay focused on that.

Let me give you an example. I am a runner. I love to run outside, and until recently, really hated having to go to the gym. It’s boring, and not the kind of workout I want. I mean really, who wants to run in place on a treadmill for 5 miles instead of watching the scenery and hearing the birds outside for 5 miles.

But in winter, the weather does not always permit outside running. If it is bitter cold, slippery or rainy, it’s just not safe for me to be out there running, risking a fall or frostbite! Last year, I ended up just taking more days off than I wanted, but this year, I’m tackling the gym and learning how to be happy about it.

I actually realized that I can embrace my gym workouts as learning experiences. If I’m on the dreadmill (oh excuse me, treadmill), then I can listen to a podcast on my phone and the time flies by. On the elliptical, I read leadership books on my tablet and listen to music. Plus, I’ve been doing weights more often, which is building my strength. Win win.

How can you find the good no matter what?